How to Unstick a Crazymaker Relationship

Besides being a writer, I’m also an energy healer and clinical hypnotherapist. I’m fascinated by metaphysics and how the energy of intention works. I’m always open to new perspectives on how to improve my life. I road test the idea on myself, and if it works well, I then offer it to my clients. I am my own guinea pig! I’ve learned so many techniques over the years that sometimes I forget to use really great ones. A case in point emerged a few days ago when I had to deal with a crazymaker. Let me explain what a crazymaker is. A crazymaker is a person whose default position is No. No to everything. Quite often this is because they want to be in control. They want to be in control because they feel insecure. So they will often say No even if they want to say Yes, just because someone else wants them to say Yes. That way, they at least retain the power of refusal. Crazymakers are full of fear, and they take up huge swathes of your time with their fuss and dramas. My theory is that everyone has at least one crazymaker in their life. Have you one in yours?

I was reminded through a podcast about a technique called the Ho Oponopono. It comes from the Hawaiian shamanic tradition. There is a story about a doctor who starts work in a secure psychiatric facility. It held long term patients with chronic conditions and most of them were violent. The doctor imagined a patient sitting in front of him, and said to them in his mind: “I love you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.” This is the Ho Oponopono. He did this to one patient at a time, in his mind. To his amazement and delight, the patients’ behaviour changed because in using the Ho Oponopono, the doctor shifted the energy and opened up new possibilities. Through the power of his compassion, the patients became less violent and more co-operative. Some of them started taking part in arts and crafts. Some of them were released.

If you choose to try the Ho Oponopono, know that while it is safe to do so, it is a powerful tool. Expect miracles and be grateful to the Universe when they happen! It is important, however, to speak only the truth, so if you don’t love the person, instead of saying “I love you,” I suggest you say instead “I salute the Divinity in you.”

Also, people have asked me indignantly “Why should I say I’m sorry to HIM when it was he who did this to ME?” Great question. My answer is that the Crazymaker is usually in good form. They are unconsciously feeding off your energy because they don’t know how to renew their own spiritual energy. They mistakenly think they are alone and disconnected from their Source energy. That is a misperception. So the Crazymaker is fine, but you are not. You may be stressed, tense, anxious, eating/drinking/smoking – doing anything to stuff down the frustration caused by dealing with them. So the only one who is suffering is you. You are therefore the only one who can do anything about it. Just imagine how much energy would be freed up in your life if this relationship became unstuck!

I used it last week with my personal crazymaker, and am blown away with the results. The default No became Yes. It was so miraculous that I have to sign off now to buy a lottery ticket, because I think, “If I can change that relationship, I can do ANYTHING!”

So if you have a stuck crazymaker relationship mired in drama and powerplays, try it out. What have you got to lose? Let me know how you get on.